This is exactly what it takes to change your life

I’m making no major claims here in saying that once you understand your body every single day you feel amazing, nothing phases you, nothing bothers you and you walk around in a whimsical floating dream effortlessly gliding through life without a care in the world.

But I do make the claim that when you are finding things difficult, you understand why. You don’t attribute everything to everything and everybody else. What you recognise is that those external things are creating a reaction in your body – in your nervous system – that is producing certain thoughts and feelings, creating certain behaviours and giving you a perception of yourself, others, and the world around you…

Based simply on which state your nervous system has flicked you into (which it does automatically, based on which one it thinks you need to be in in order to keep you safe – to keep you alive).

Do you know just how genuinely – in the truest sense of the word – empowering that is, when you start to recognise that how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, and what you believe… comes from the state of the nervous system you are in?

Let’s get tangible and real life here – that’s the way it always clicks with me. And the fact you’re receiving these emails says you and I speak a similar language – and that’s great. Lovely to be in the company of like-mindeds. While I’m on this point, big thanks for being here.

I’ve had an absolutely blinding week.

The sun has shone.

I’ve spent time with some properly lovely people I’ve been blessed to share space, time, conversation, and experiences with.

I’ve had some amazing results and development in my business (which in turn means supporting even more people with this life-changing work).

Some amazing results with clients – feedback of lives changed, perspectives shifted and brighter, more fulfilling futures on their way to being created.

There is nothing in the world gives me more of a buzz than seeing somebody positively impacted by something – be that something I’ve helped with or the influence of something or someone else.

Seeing someone feel better – happier – is the absolute BOMB!

And for my clients, it’s them that do the work, not me.

They come to me when they are ready. I can’t make people ready.

They’re ready to share.

They are ready to be heard and held.

They are ready to learn about themselves, about their system, about a new way of living. A new place to live from.

I merely facilitate and help them on their journey.

I also had an absolutely incredible event on Thursday night – that if I’m honest, I really couldn’t be bothered going to.

I knew it would be fabulous – it was hosted by a friend of mine who I met a year or so ago who is doing great things for women in this world (shout out to @lindseykane) – it’s just that my relationship with my incredibly regulating jersey clothing and early nights has become stronger than the pull to want to ever go out. Anyway, as suspected it was life enriching, as I shared a table 19 other women who all do such different things in the world, but all open to collaboration and helping each other help others. I came home with an even bigger spring in my step (and couldn't sleep because of it!). But happy heart.

These last few weeks though, I have gone out quite a lot (think I mentioned that last week) – and although I feel full of heart, I also feel pretty knackered.

And tonight (Saturday) I’m out again – but this is it for a while now.

I also said that last week! But then somebody surprised me – and you know what? Surprises from somebody who cares about you are very nice, and we should accept them graciously. So I’ll feedback next week on what that was.

But despite all this wonder this week – I've had my moments.... I guess it’s tiredness.

I’m no good without sleep.

None of us are.

It automatically dysregulates our nervous system, as it hasn’t had time to rest and restore and function at its optimum.

We are not machines – we need that important rest time to literally regenerate.

This is a feeling so many of you will know well – stuck in survival mode, worn down by the pace of modern life, without yet knowing how to soften the blow and help yourself return to regulation.

So some things have been bothering me in my mind a little this week – you know the everyday stuff, the worries over things you have no control over and always turn out just fine anyway – and I’ve been feeling all the feelings of it in snippets of intensity peppered throughout the nice stuff – and it’s driven me a wee bit mad.

But in the same sense, I laugh at myself when I catch myself in the spiral. (Which is a far cry from the panic about the spiral I would once have experienced back in the old days – waaaaaa)

Whereas now, I laugh at myself because I recognise it is literally (and I do mean literally, not in the Made In Chelsea kinda overused way) the state of nervous system I am in that’s creating this mode of thinking/perception…

And I try and talk my way out of it – which I know doesn’t work – then that makes me chuckle more when I catch myself doing that, because I’m a nervous system strategist. I know that won’t work and really I know what to do.

I just sometimes (often in the moment) forget.

And in those moments when I do remember, I’ll whip off my socks and get outside (well I did today).

I’ll walk on the grass and remember how useful nature is in helping me return.

And then I’ll touch a tree or tend to my plants – and I still feel bonkers doing it despite knowing all the research around why this really does work – and guess what? I start to feel miles better!

It doesn’t flick a switch.

It doesn’t instantly tip you back into regulation.

Don’t be hoping for massive earth-shattering shifts with nervous system work – it’s a calm, steady, incremental return to regulation…

But it nudges you. Edges you towards it. Towards feeling better.

And the compound effect of repeating these practices as often as you can is unimaginable.

Your life literally changes in every single way.

I won’t go on much more today.

I’m finishing this email sitting on my front doorstep (dictating into my notes app, as ever), looking up at the clouds and the blue sky behind them and the trees in front of them, and smiling.

How lucky we are – these free, simple pleasures that help us nurture our bodies and minds back to a place of safety.

And from this place of safety in our body is where true life – and enjoyment of that life – is really created.

And if I can help you get started on this journey with a whole hour just for you, it would be the greatest gift and pleasure – directly from me to you.

You can find out what this looks like and book yourself in here.

Have a wonderful week.